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爱情原来还能分门别类?你是哪款(双语)

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“爱情”一直都是心理学家研究的课题,也是我们感受得到,却形容不出来的东西。如今,心理学家又把爱情分门别类了一番,快来看看你和你的伴侣属于哪种类型吧!如果还是孤芳自赏也没有关系呢,你可以选择一种自己理想的爱情关系呦!

What is love? Philosophers and scientists have been struggling to answer this question formany years. In the 1980s, American psychologist Robert Sternberg developed a 3-component theory of love which includes emotional intimacy, passion, and commitment. According to him, it’s these 3 points that constitute the beautiful feeling that thousandsof songs and books are written about. Later, thanks to his theory, Sternberg singled out 7 typesof love and we’re going to tell you about them in this article.

爱情是什么?许多年来,哲学家和科学家一直在努力寻找这个问题的答案。20世纪80年代,美国的心理学家罗伯特·斯腾伯格(Robert Sternberg )提出了一个爱情三要素的理论,该理论认为爱情有三个组成部分:亲密、激情和承诺。他认为,正是这三种东西构成了一种美妙感觉,成为了成千上万种歌曲和书籍歌颂的对象。之后,在此理论基础之上,斯腾伯格(Sternberg)归纳出了 7 种类型的爱情,这篇文章将为您一一讲述。

Here at Bright Side, we believe that feelings change over time. If you haven’t made it to theseventh type of love yet, you and your partner may just need more time.

BrightSide 认为,感情会随着时间的改变而改变。如果你和你的另一半还没有进入到第七种状态,那你们可能还需要一点时间呦!

 

Infatuation 迷恋式爱情

This is the period when people barely know each other, yet feel a mutual attraction. In sucha relationship, two people often don’t have the faintest idea of whether or not they haveanything in common, but they stay together anyway.

迷恋式爱情期间,双方对彼此了解甚少,但却觉得相互吸引。这种关系之下,两个人通常不知道他们是否有共同之处,但他们还是会呆在一起。

 

According to the psychologist, this infatuation can transform into something more completeover time, but this doesn’t always happen. Many couples don’t get beyond this type of love.

心理学家认为,随着时间的推移,迷恋会转化为更完整的东西,但这样的情况并不会经常发生。许多情侣并不会超越这种类型的爱情。

 

Liking 喜欢式爱情

In such relationships, you can always be yourself. In this type of love, people are usually unitedby common interests, views on life, and the feeling of being understood. Psychologists believethat such intimacy without passion and commitment will more likely result in friendship thanfull-fledged love.

在这样的关系中,你可以总是做你自己。这种类型的爱情意味着,双方通常会因为共同的兴趣、人生观,以及相互理解而走到一起。心理学家认为,这种没有激情和承诺的亲密关系更有可能变成友谊而非成熟的爱情。

 

Empty love 空洞式爱情

Couples experiencing this type of love have only commitment without intimacy andpassion. Sometimes this type of relationship appears after a big, fervent love, and sometimesit’s vice versa: people who experience empty love can change, which adds passion to theirfeelings.

经历这种爱情的二人只有承诺,没有亲密和激情。有时这种关系出现在一段轰轰烈烈的爱情之后,而有时正好相反:经历过空洞式爱情的人可以改变,这种经历可以增加他们对爱情的激情。

 

Fatuous love 愚蠢式爱情

This type of love includes commitment and passion and is familiar to many couples. This is thekind of love that exists when 2 people are really attracted to each other and are ready to followcertain traditions like lavish weddings, exchanging vows, and sharing home duties, but don’thave true intimacy.

这种类型的爱情包括承诺和激情,很多情侣都处于这种状态。在这种爱情中,双方都被彼此吸引,并且已经做好准备遵循某些传统,例如举办奢华的婚礼,互相宣读爱情誓言,以及共同分担家庭责任,但没有真正的亲密关系。

Psychologists think that such couples can live together for a long time, but their happinessis relative. In fact, they don’t perceive their partner as a friend.

心理学家认为这种类型的情侣可以长期生活在一起,但他们的幸福是相对的。事实上,他们并不把彼此当作朋友。

 

Romantic love 浪漫式爱情

This kind of love includes passion and intimacy. People in such couples are attracted to eachother and feel comfortable next to one another, but they’re not ready to make seriouscommitments. Relationships of this type often don’t reach the level of cohabitationor marriage.

这种类型的爱情包括激情和亲密。处于这种关系之中的双方被彼此吸引,在彼此身边的时候感觉很舒服,但他们还没有准备好做出庄严的承诺。这种类型的爱情通常不会到同居或是结婚的地步。

 

Companionate 同伴式爱情

Companionate love consists of commitment and intimacy. Such relationships are muchstronger than a usual friendship, and there’s a true attachment between the partners. Yet thisis a rather chaste agreement because this type of love lacks passion. Psychologists say that thecompanionate type of relationship can arise after long years of an acquaintance or marriage.

同伴式爱情包括承诺和亲密。这种关系比通常的友谊更加牢固,并且双方对彼此有一种真正的依恋。但是这种关系好像一种相当纯洁的协议,因为这种爱情缺乏激情。心理学家认为同伴式爱情会在多年相识或是结婚多年后出现。

 

Consummate love 完美式爱情

This love consists of all 3 components: passion, emotional intimacy, andcommitment. Of course, their levels aren’t always equal, but it’s important to note that they’reall here. You can rarely see this type of relationship, yet if people manage to build them, theytruly love each other. Such couples will most likely be able to live a long life together and enjoytheir marriage.

完美式爱情包含上面所说的三个组成部分:激情、亲密和承诺。当然了,三者水平并不等同,但重要的是,这三种成分在完美式爱情里都有体现。这种类型的爱情很少见,但如果有人想要设法建立这种关系,那他们就真的是真爱了!这样的夫妇很有可能会幸福长久地生活在一起。

Psychologists are sure that a person experiences various types of love in their lifetime. Sometimes it happens with the same partner: they get closer and move to a new level. Butother times it happens with different people. Either way, your relationship may not fit into oneof the standard 7 types of love and may balance between 2 of them.

心理学家认为,一个人一生会经历各种爱情。有时会和同一个伴侣一起体验不同的爱情:关系越来越近,并上升到一个新的高度。有时也会和不同的人一起经历。但是也有时候,爱情可能并不属于上述 7 种类型,而是处于某两种类型之间。

 

This typology will help you define what relationship you’re in now, and whether it’s worthcontinuing it. If you discuss it with your partner, maybe over time you’ll be able to transformyour type of love into a kind that both of you are happy with.

这种对爱情的分类可以帮助你确定你现在处于哪种类型的关系之中,是否值得继续现在的关系。如果你和你的伴侣讨论这个话题,或许随着时间的推移,你们之间的关系会变成另外一种让彼此都很满意的类型。

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